Why People Commit Adultery
Tuesday, April 21st, 2009It is a common myth that men cheat whereas women are completely faithful. The unfortunate truth, however, is that nearly 60% of women claim to have had an adulterous affair. By looking at the reasons why both men and women cheat, you can understand some of the motivations behind adultery.
Why Men Cheat
The most common reason for men to cheat is that they are dissatisfied with the sexual activity in their relationship. Perhaps they are not having sex often enough, or they are craving more excitement in the bedroom. Many men are afraid of suggesting new ideas to their regular partners, so they look outside the relationship. Even satisfied men may cheat if their regular lover is not available – on a business trip, for example.
Some men feel that cheating is a natural prerogative, because the male of the species is driven to spread his genes around. Others may commit adultery after a child has been born, because he is feeling abandoned because the baby is suddenly the center of his wife’s attention.
Men may feel vulnerable to an affair during a mid-life crisis, after a setback in his career, or during times of financial difficulty.
Why Women Cheat
Women who feel ignored or taken for granted often look for satisfaction outside of their relationship. The most common reason for a woman to commit adultery is that her emotional needs are not being met at home. Men at the start of a new relationship are often more romantic and passionate, more expressive of their feelings, and more appreciative and attentive.
Women may start feeling vulnerable about their appearance as they grow older, making it tempting to look outside the relationship for a man who will confirm her desirability.
Why Both Genders Cheat
Both men and women can start to wander if their partner undergoes a change like becoming meaner, sloppier, or less attractive. Infidelity also breeds more adultery – many people whose partners have cheated on them take revenge by having an affair themselves. “The grass is always greener” is a dangerous outlook that can lead to adultery, as people tend to overlook the flaws of their partner at the start of a relationship, and to imagine an idyllic relationship with a different lover.
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